Sunday, January 25, 2009

Parenting~Unholy Anger Part 1

Let's take a look at Ephesians 6:4
(see also Genesis 18:19,and Deuteronomy 6:2)

This verse commands us to bring our children up in the training and instruction of the Lord. This is a simple principle that enables us to think clearly about our responsibility as parents. You as a parent are under the authority of the Lord. Your job as a parent is to point your children to the Lord. You and your children are in the same boat. Both parents and the child is under God's authority. You have different roles, but the same Master.

If we allow unholy anger to muddle the correction process, we are wrong. We need to ask for forgiveness. Our right to discipline our children is tied to what God has called us to do, not to our own agenda. Unholy anger~ anger over the fact that we are not getting what we want from our children.....will muddy the waters of discipline. What this does is it frames the discipline as a problem between the parent and the child, not as a problem between the child and God.
It is God who is not being obeyed when we are disobeyed. It is God who is not being honored when we are not honored. The issue is not an interpersonal contest, it is rather your insistence that your child obey God, because obeying Gos is good and right.

Question you can ask yourself....
What do you think is the nature of your authority as a parent? How does this square with a biblical view?

Stay tuned for part 2


Peggy said...

This is an area that needs work for me:) I am sometimes quick to raise my voice out of frustration.

GraceFromHim said... too! God is working in me on this area. I will share a bit later some things God is teaching me about discipline.