I Choose to Bless...My Marriage Day 1

For the pass few years I have really struggled in my marriage.

There was a time I worked hard to build my marriage up and glorify God through it. But, the past few years I lost focus and let things go. A couple month ago my son wanted to watch our wedding so I dug out the tape and we watched it. Watching it made me realize how far we have come(18 years). 

I am choosing to get my head back in the game and work at my marriage. Satan wants nothing more then to destroy this marriage. I pray the Lord would put a hedge of protection around us so that we can build it back up.

Everyday I will share a goal for each day. This will be based out of

 "The Love Dare"

I encourage you to come along with me on the journey.

Matthew 19:6

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder

Your Words

Your words reflect your heart.

Today practice on demonstrating patience.

Say nothing negative to your spouse at all.

If  the temptation arises, choose not to say anything.

It's better to hold your tongue than to say something

you'll regret.

Some verses to ponder

A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife. Prov. 15:18

With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Eph. 4:2

Prayer

Lord, Help me today to speak out of Love... To remember your Love for us, even when we weren't lovable. Keep watch over my tongue.

Help me be silent when I shouldn't speak and to Love when it isn't  deserved. Thank you for loving us and giving us HOPE when sometimes it feels hopeless.

Amen

A godly wife......

A wife is someone cherished in a very special way,

Who puts the joy in living with her sweetness day by day.

A wife is someone close enough to really understand,

To inspire & to encourage & to lend a helping hand.

A wife is one who makes a home a happy place for all.

Who shows her special thoughtfulness in ways both big & small.

A wife is someone wonderful who always has smile,

Who keeps her husband happy & makes his life worthwhile.

What Is Your Calling?

Titus 2:3-5
The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Lets Look at these portions of scripture and see what our role is as a women
It amazes me just how far we have came today AWAY from the God given calling we have!
May we look at God's Word here with a willingness to DO what he calls us to do.
Before I became a Christian I had no clue what I was suppose to be as a wife. I had it all wrong. But I am thankful there was a godly woman in my church would took the time to teach me, thus fulfilling Titus 2. This study has been a great reminder......I pray it will be for you also!


1.Behavior as becometh holiness~ befitting men, places, actions or sacred things to God
2.Not false accusers~prone to slander, slanderous, accusing falsely; A calumniator, false accuser, slanderer,
3.Not given to much wine~
4.Teachers of good things~teaching that which is good, a teacher of goodness
5.Teaching young women to be
a. To Be Sober~
1) restore one to his senses

2) to moderate, control, curb, disciple

3) to hold one to his duty

4) to admonish, to exhort earnestly

b. To love their husbands~loving her husband
c. To love their children~loving one's offspring or children
d. To be discreet~
1) of a sound mind, sane, in one's senses
2) curbing one's desires and impulses, self-controlled, temperate
e. To be chaste~
1) exciting reverence, venerable, sacred
2) pure
a) pure from carnality, chaste, modest
b) pure from every fault, immaculate
c) clean
f. To be keepers at home~
1) caring for the house, working at home
a) the (watch or) keeper of the house
b) keeping at home and taking care of household affairs
c) a domestic
g. To be good~
1) of good constitution or nature
2) useful, salutary
3) good, pleasant, agreeable, joyful, happy
4) excellent, distinguished
5) upright, honourable
h. To be obediant to their own husbands~
1) to arrange under, to subordinate
2) to subject, put in subjection
3) to subject one's self, obey
4) to submit to one's control
5) to yield to one's admonition or advice
6) to obey, be subject

Room Mates VS Soul Mates

How much do you really want to have a great marriage? Do you want it enough to take God at His Word and place your confidence in His plan for love and marriage?
So many today are miserable in their marriage. For me I struggle in my own. But thankfully I have a God who restores if I trust and obey him. This ole' flesh want to be pleased but I must choose to die to my own wants!

Would you say you and your mate are soul mates OR room mates? Why is it that there are so many broken families these days? It is pretty simple.......They dismiss God's plan for a marriage.

Today's views are such a contrast from God's! It is all about 'Self' what pleases me. Do you want your marriage enough to STOP demanding your "rights". We must stop believing that we will be happy if only our mate changes something.

Are you motivated by LOVE or by what you want? Love is sacrificial, it does NOT depend on what you mate does or says. Love seeks to meet the true, legitimate needs of others, not the whims and destructive demands of others.
A wife is to obey her husband willingly as an act of faith in God. Are we pleasing our own agenda or God's?

Romans 13:10a Love worketh no ill to his neighbor
This means that every decision or action should be for no other reason than the good of one's husband and always to the honor of the Lord Jesus Christ.

We tend to say..."But Lord you don't understand, my husband doesn't show me that he loves me, he doesn't do anything for me...why should I do for him? This is the worlds thinking. "Love is Sacrificial", it does not depend on what the other person does!

The bible says in 1 John 3:18 'let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth'. Mathew 7:12 records "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets." Notice how love is an action involving a deliberate decision.

Do you want your soul mate back? God has a PERFECT plan for our marriages IF we will follow his blueprint, and not our own.

Lord,
I pray today that you would help us stay focused on your plan and not our own. I don't want my own desires......they do not bring me happiness, I want your desires!
Help us love sacrificially as you do. May we remember what you did for us on the cross. help us in our marriages.
In Jesus Precious name,
Amen.

Godly Woman VS Worldly Woman

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I found this article, and I thought it was great..........so I thought I would share it.





The Difference Between
A Godly Woman & A Worldly Woman


The Bible in no way neglects the importance and influence of women and the invaluable contributions they have made. Yet, the Bible portrays a distinct difference between the godly woman and the worldly woman. In particular, godly women have played an essential role in shaping the fabric of society. While the worldly woman is often a tool used by Satan to undermine the wholesomeness of society.
There is a distinct difference between the two. Note in particular Proverbs 7.1. Their Intentions Are Different. (Prov. 7:9,12). While one is void of moral purity, the other is guarded and does not put herself in a position of compromise.2. Their Imagination Is Different (Prov. 7:10). One is absorbed with her sexuality and need for significance for her own benefit. The godly woman guards her sexuality with clothing that does not draw lustful attention and knows the value of her significance in Christ Jesus.
Do You See The Difference?
3. Their Inclinations Are Different (Prov. 7:14), One pretends to be godly... the other contends for godliness.4. Their Inspiration Is Different (Prov. 7:18). One is inspired by worldly values, while the other is inspired by spiritual values. (1 John 5:3)
5. Their Interest Is Different (Prov. 7:12-21). One is interested only in the immediate. The other is interested in the eternal. (Heb. 11:24-26).
6. Their Investments Are Different - (Prov. 7:16,7) One invest in self satisfaction, while the other invest in God's glory (1 Cor. 10:31)
Sincerely, Dr. Arthur Belanger

Is The Difference clear to you?