The Road Block Of Fear

Controlling TOXIC Thoughts and Emotions

Dr. Caroline Leaf

http://drleaf.com/

There two kinds of decisions. Fear based and faith based.

Fear is an emotion that will give power to your thoughts and with focused attention,  you will begin to attract that thing or situation which you fear. You can actually feel your body respond to fear based thinking.  It tightens and the breath reacts, so you see how you ingest a fear based thought then it manifest physically, emotionally and spiritually. We begin to doubt ourselves immediately with a fear based thought.

According to Dr. Caroline Leaf states that 87% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about affects us physically and emotionally. It’s an epidemic of toxic emotions.

The average person has over 30,000 thoughts a day. Through an uncontrolled thought life, we create the conditions for illness; we make ourselves sick! Research shows that fear, all on its own, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones. There are INTELLECTUAL and MEDICAL reasons to FORGIVE! Toxic waste generated by toxic thoughts causes the following illnesses: diabetes, cancer, asthma, skin problems and allergies to name just a few. Consciously control your thought life and start to detox your brain!

Medical research increasingly points to the fact that thinking and consciously controlling your thought life is one of the best ways, if not the best way of detoxing your brain. It allows you to get rid of those toxic thoughts and emotions that can consume and control your mind.

Change in your thinking is essential to detox the brain.

First point of change is to recognize what thoughts you are:

1.      How many times a day to you think “I should have, could have or would have?”

2.      How often do you regret your life choices?

3.      Do you replay old “tapes” in your head and fantasize about different outcomes?

4.      Are you an observer of your thoughts or do you ingest them all as truth? 

5.      How honest are you with yourself?

6.      What are you scared of physically?

7.      What are you scared of emotionally?

8.      What are you scared of spiritually?

9.      Do you believe these fears are all possible?

10.  Are you afraid of failure?

11.  Are you afraid of success?

12.  Are you trusting in God

10 % _____25%  _____  50%_____ 75% ____ 90% ____ 100% ____ of the time?

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The Road Block of Discontentment

Today I have really been reflecting. It has been a difficult time adjusting to a new place, finding a church and dealing with chronic pain. There are times I find myself 'stuck' in the rut of being discontent. If I start dwelling on our hardships and struggles I quickly find it hard to control my emotions. It then effects my marriage and my parenting.

Here are some verses I am focusing on this week

Lamentations 3:21-24
This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope.
[It is of] the LORD'S mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not.
They are new every morning: great [is] thy faithfulness.
The LORD [is] my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him.

Generally speaking depression in the Bible is 'sorrow' without HOPE.
The word depression is not found in the Bible but if you look up:
cast down, sorrow, overwhelmed, despair, dis-contented, or trouble, you will find more about what God says regarding being discontent.

May I remember HOPE is a confident anticipation of God's promised good outcome! God has it under control. I just need to keep my focus on the right place.

Teaching Books Of The Bible

Marriage: Practicing Bitterness?

Are you Practicing Bitterness?

Were you mad at your husband today over something he did? Did you seeth with bitterness and intentionally avoid looking into his eyes so as to express your distain? Does he now bend to your anger and do better in hopes of escaping your condemnation? He practices his faults, and you practice your bitterness. You are both practicing DIVORCE. Your children watch and are practicing being poor mothers and fathers.

~Created To Be His Help Meet By Debi Pearl

After reading this....I sat and cried today. How many times have I did this in my marriage. We need to be very careful to not fall in this trap. 

Let us pray...

Father help us as wives sort out our emotions from the facts. Help us to react in the correct manner to our spouse. Please forgive me for being selfish and not having a clean heart that forgives more easily.

In Jesus Name

Amen

(I read a Proverbs a day and record which verse or verses God speaks to me)

Proverbs 20

Proverbs 20:13

Love not sleep, lest thou come to poverty; open thine eyes, [and] thou shalt be satisfied with bread.

When I read this verse today it made me think of how important it is to teach my children how to be diligent about all that they do. I need to make sure that while I teach them at home they have a schedule.  Having a set bed time and a set arise time helps them develop a healthy way of living. I hear of many parents letting their children stay up until late hours in the night and then the child is free to get up whenever they feel like it. The Bible tells us to 'love' not sleep. 

Proverbs 20:22

Say not thou, I will recompense evil; [but] wait on the LORD, and he shall save thee.

This verse speaks to me about getting even with someone. I should not try to get even but rather pray and wait on the Lord. He knows what that other person needs. I don't  know the other persons heart or motives. Often we assume things that are just not true. I need to leave it with God he will settle it.

Present Suffering Future Glory

Sermon Notes

"Present Suffering Future Glory"

Pastor Mailoux

Date: 8/19/12

Opening Verse: Romans 8:18

For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time [are] not worthy [to be compared] with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

3 Causes For Suffering

~ The world is in a state of decay

~The laws of physical universe

~Sin

Reasons For Suffering

Daniel 3:16-18, 24-30

1. Prime means of suffering is for the glory of God

(Do we run from suffering ?)

2. Discipline for known sin 

Hebrews 12:5-11

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:

For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected [us], and we gave [them] reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?

For they verily for a few days chastened [us] after their own pleasure; but he for [our] profit, that [we] might be partakers of his holiness.

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. 3. To Keep Us From Pride 2 Corinthians 12:7-10

And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure.For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

4. To Build Faith

1 Peter 1:6-7 Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations:That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ:

5. To Cause Spiritual Growth

Romans 5:3-5

And not only [so], but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;

And patience, experience; and experience, hope:

And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.

6. To Teach Us Contentment

Phil 4:11-13

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, [therewith] to be content.I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

7. Equip Us To Comfort Others

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Blessed [be] God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.

8. To prove the reality that Christ is in us

2 Corinthians 4:7-11

But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.[We are] troubled on every side, yet not distressed; [we are] perplexed, but not in despair;

Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.

For we which live are alway delivered unto death for Jesus' sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh.

2 Timothy 1:12

For the which cause I also suffer these things: nevertheless I am not ashamed: for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day.

Taking Out the Trash

 

Who wants to live with yesterday’s rubble?  Who wants to hoard the trash of the past?  You don’t, do you?  Or do you?

 

I’m not talking about the trash in your house, but in your heart.  Not the junk of papers and boxes but the remnants of anger and hurt.  Do you rat-pack your pain?  Amass offenses?  Record slights?

 

A tour of your heart might be telling.  A pile of rejections.  Accumulated insults.  No one can blame you.  They’re innocence takers, promise breakers, and wound makers.  They’re everywhere and you’ve had your share.

 

Jesus answered Peter’s question in Matthew 18:21 and 22 when he asked:  “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me?  Seven times?”  “No, not seven times,” Jesus said.  “Seventy times seven!”

 

Do you want to give every day a chance?  Jesus says to get rid of the trash.  Give the grace you’ve been given!

 

From Great Day Every Day

Controlling Our Thoughts

A healthy thought and toxic thought can both be built with mental rehearsal . But we can literally tear toxic strongholds down by choosing to bring the thought into conscious awareness for analysis, and then changing it through repentance and forgiveness (causing protein synthesis) and replacing it with the correct information, using Philippians 4:8. 

~Who Switched Off My Brain?~

Dr. Caroline Leaf

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.

Toxic thoughts are thoughts that trigger negative and anxious emotions, which produce biochemicals that cause the body stress. They are stored in your mind, as well as in the cells in your body.

Every single thought- whether it is positive or negative -goes through the same cycle when it forms. Thoughts are basically electrical impulses, chemicals and neurons. They look like tree branches. As the thoughts grow and become permanent, more branches grow and the connections become stronger.

About a year ago, I was introduced to the book 'Who Switched Off MY Brain' By Caroline Leaf. It is a book that had a huge impact on my life! Years ago I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. Like many conditions people have, toxic thinking can and WILL effect your health. I use to get angry when I went to the doctor and they would ask me if I had any stress going on in my life. After having FMS for a while I began to see a pattern. Fibro flares usually take place after a stressful time or over activity. I want to share with you some things that have made such a difference in controlling FMS. When time allows I will share what I am learning through controlling my thoughts. Until next time...

Blessings,

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A new journey will begin next week as we travel back to Washington. I am not sure this time I am as exited about it, honestly. When we came here to Texas I had time to pray about it and knew that was God's direction. It was sad to leave family, but it felt like it was a God given direction. Looking back over this past year, there have been so many life lessons that we needed as a family. The blessings of working with family, a church that taught us so much about love, sweet friendships, and a loving community made it so worth it!

Next week we will be moving to a town in Eastern Washington that is about 4 hours from home. I have been researching that area to find a good church and an area that we can find a house in. This week we are going to be cleaning and getting everything ready to leave on Sunday. Yesterday was our last day at Agnes. It was sad to say goodbye to so many who had such an impact in my life. I am not sure what the next chapter in our life will be. I am trying to look at it the same way I did coming here. I love everything about this place. I pray we find a church as loving and kind as Agnes Baptist Church!

The boys have all of their stuff packed. Most of our furniture is already gone. I am looking forward to seeing my family next week. Wayne said his job is going well and he should know a date to be over in the Tri Cites area soon. A new adventure is about to begin.......

Brandie

A Christian Home

An ideal Christian home ought to be a place where love rules. It ought to be beautiful, bright, joyous, full of tenderness and affection, a place in which all are growing happier and holier each day. There should never be any discord, any wrangling, any angry words or bitter feelings. The home-life should be a harmonious song without one marring note, day after day. The home, no matter how humble it is, how plain, how small – should be the dearest spot on the earth to each member of the family. It should be made so happy a place, and so full of life, that no matter where one may wander in after years, in any of the ends of the earth – his home should still hold its invisible cords of influence about him, and should ever draw resistless upon his heart. It ought to be the one spot in all the earth, to which he would turn first, when in trouble or in danger. It should be his refuge, in every trial and grief.

J.R. Miller
Homemaking, 1882.

Reflecting On Change

It will be a year in April that we moved here to Texas.

Looking back I remember all the fears, excitement, and anticipation.

Any kind of change had always been difficult for me. But God has grown us as a family so much since our move. It was a time when we had to come together as a family and lean on each other for comfort. The thought of moving just a year prior made me sick inside. As we began to pray for God's direction he gave us peace and comfort. We met each step as it came. I remember days of fear and days of excitement. When there was fear, I would try and trust God to lead the way.

Fear is the opposite of faith! These two can not live together. If we have fear, then we are not trusting in God. Many times I would question if it was the right thing to do. I would have to keep surrendering those fears to God.

God taught us so much in the past year about trusting. Looking back it makes sense when at the time it made no sense. We were leaving so many good things behind. Today I am so thankful for the journey through the unknown. Thankful we took that leap of faith! The best part of this past year has been the LOVE and support that has been show by our church. The friendships I have made are very dear to my heart!

All I can say is that God demonstrated His faithfulness to us through this past year.

“Often times God demonstrates His faithfulness in adversity by providing for us what we need to survive. He does not change our painful circumstances. He sustains us through them.” ~ Charles Stanley

Quiet Time With God

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Having A Daily Quiet Time With God

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"A consistent daily quiet time eliminates 95% of temptations!"

Imagine that you've been invited to meet with the President of the United States in the Oval Office. You'd likely look forward to your appointment with great excitement. Now imagine that someone much more exciting - the God of the universe - wants to meet with you personally. This scenario is true; God really does want to meet with you, and He wants to do so every single day through a private quiet time alone.

I have had the privilege of traveling and teaching for several years, training good lay-people in local churches to start "How To Have A Daily Time With God" and have a real relationship with Him. I never teach on "How To Have A Daily Time With God" without seeing many tears. I sense hearts being turned towards Him. I get e-mails and phone calls all the time from people who say "God changed my life" after reading "How To Have A Daily Time With God". However, I wonder how many started having a daily time with God and stopped? I wonder how many more started but now, just hurry up, to "get it done"? They are mechanically going through the motions and failing spiritually. They are not really hearing God. Romans 10:17, “So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” Hebrews 11:6, “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” So, my friend if you are not hearing from God daily (listening and being taught by the Holy Spirit) you cannot have faith and therefore, you will not be able to please God. In essence, many poor choices and destruction will come to your life. Proverbs 13:13, “Whoso despiseth (does not give proper attention to) the word shall be destroyed: but he that feareth the commandment shall be rewarded.”

Writing in a notebook allows the individual to review their thoughts, moments of clarity, and assists them in developing Spirit-led insight. Writing in the notebook is a very powerful tool to keep one in the reality of HIM. I often teach how the notebook, when approached properly, will give you a "fresh" awareness of God's presence in your life. Have you had one lately?

Those appointments with God should be a source of great joy for you. But unfortunately, quiet times can sometimes seem too intimidating to schedule or maintain regularly. The devil always wants us to believe we are to busy, too stressed, or we are okay with out it (lie). Here are some ways you can enjoy your appointments with God; I can promise you they will be more enjoyable than with any President:

* Seek God Himself rather than anything He might give you. Know that God will meet you where you are and reveal much about Himself to you if you're sincerely seeking Him, Hebrews 11:6.

* Listen carefully for God's voice, which you'll recognize better and better the more time you spend with Him. Wait expectantly in silence for a while for the Holy Spirit to speak. Resist the outside pressure from Satan and listen for the inside persuasion from God.

* Write down your thoughts, feelings, and prayers in the notebook during your quiet time to more clearly express them. Read through your notebook often. I find that God speaks to my heart again when I review my note book.

* Think about how much God loves you, and expect to be blessed as a result of spending time with Him. View your quiet times as cherished meetings with someone you love.

* Realize that the more time you spend with God, the greater the intimacy you'll develop with Him. Although the idea of a daily quiet time might seem awkward at first because you might not know what to say or how to recognize God's voice; after a while, you'll look forward to the appointment because it will be like meeting with your best friend.

* Read the "How To Have A Daily Time With God" booklet again. Please note the booklet “How To Have A Daily Time With God” is available in the catalog section of our web site atwww.fortheloveofthefamily.com. I promise you there are parts you have forgotten. This will refresh your look at the things you are looking for in your daily time.

* Set aside a consistent time every day to meet with God. Choose a time at which you're most alert and can block out distractions. I believe God always ask us for the "first." He made it plain to give him the first fruits of our income, the first day of the week, etc. Many times, the mentors from the pages of God's Word spoke of the first part of the day.

* Designate a special place in which you can meet privately with God. The place can be either indoors or outdoors, such as a home office, bed room, favorite chair, or in the woods. I suggest you have several places, as to eliminate all excuses. If you are traveling, look for a place as soon as you are at the location you will be sleeping. Prepare to go there when you awake.

Remember: the best evidence of the value of a Quiet Time is remembering the day you skipped it. When you skip it once it can then become more days and you start to spiritually spiral down and make emotion led decisions (directed by Satan) that are not God's will. It only then gets worse not better and temptations become stronger not weaker. The decisions I make during these times will ultimately lead to destruction, Proverbs 13:13. The notebook does not lie; it tells me when I am failing in my spiritual life.

If you are a parent, look at your children. Do they have a consistent daily quiet time with God? Do you have their heart? Don't allow yourself to be emotionally manipulated by your children. Your goal as a parent is to get their heart and teach them to have a real relationship with God. Anything else and you are failing spiritually as a parent. Poor decisions are made in the home of emotion led parent's and children that lead to the children growing up and being someone who does not handle life spiritually and wisely. They do not have a heart for God. Remember up to 80 percent of all children who grow up in an independent Baptist home do not go on to serve God. Why? Because they do not have a real relationship with God and they and their parents are led by their emotions (Satanically fueled). I believe the reason for this is the parents do not have a real relationship with God, so therefore the children do not.

A wise parent helps their children "Have A Daily Time With God" and checks their notebook often. A wise parent realizes the most important thing for themselves and their children is a "REAL", Intimate, personal and passionate relationship with God.

Galatians 6:7-8, Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall reap corruption (destruction); but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

Nothing ever spiritual and good is accomplished by "going our own way."